How to be a Gentleman? – 50 Things Every Young Gentleman Should Know – Book Review

I’m going to be covering a few topics I found reading the book “50 Things Every Young Gentleman Should Know” by John Bridges and Bryan Curtis. I would like to say that most of these tips are manners and etiquette and many of the ladies watching could benefit from this blog. Also now this blog is going to bit different as I’m going to offer many tips instead of just explaining big ideas.
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#1 Please

Now we probably all take saying please for granted. A young gentleman says please whenever he is asking someone for something whether that is an item a favor or even advice. Not only is it a polite but it also removes the possibility of sounding rude or sarcastic when you’re asking for something. Also never ever think that just because someone is doing their job that they don’t deserve appreciation and a kind. Just because hotel maids are paid to clean your room it doesn’t hurt to ask them ‘please’ to do something or especially thank them which is our next tip.

#2 Thank You

As a gentleman in today’s world you’re bound to receive all kinds of compliments. The best way you can accept a compliment is to say ‘thank you’. You don’t need to go on and on thanking them for their service. You certainly don’t brush them off either, if you recently got a haircut and someone compliments you on it ‘Don’t say oh, they missed a spot in the back’ simply look them straight in the eyes and thank them. Another way of thanking someone is by writing is by writing them a handwritten letter. These are grossly underestimated in today’s electronic world.

#3 Excusing Yourself

Young gentleman notice step out of a room, if they have to pass glass also when you’re excusing yourself from a crowd you can try to alternate between excuse me and pardon me to avoid awkward repetitive words and when you’re calling someone don’t yell things like ‘hey you’ instead say excuse me when trying to get someone’s attention. A tip the book gives is to learn the cultural and regional ways to address different people titles such as ‘madam’ ‘sir’ can go a long way if the person is not used to it.

#4 Introducing People

When you’re introducing to people always try to introduce the younger person to the older person instead of saying ‘Hey John, this is my dad’ say ‘Hey dad, this is my friend John’ and if you can add something interesting to make the introduction memorable and exciting.

#5 Shaking Hands

When you’re shaking hands allow the older person or a lady to stick their hand out first and when you’re sitting always stand up to shake someone’s hand. This is simply a respect statement. If for some reason you can’t shake hands right now explain why. For example; you might have grease on your fingers from fixing a motorcycle. Lastly never ever make a comment about someone’s handshake unless they bring it up first. Don’t comment on their overly strong or overly weak handshake.

#6 Gifts

When a gentleman receives a gift he enjoys kindly thanking the giver. A gentleman never says statements such as ‘Oh you shouldn’t have ‘. The same goes for any gift that gentleman doesn’t like they respectfully thank the giver as the gentleman knows that a gift from the heart is way more valuable than one from the wallet. The book says never compare gifts as it can hurt feelings and cause bitterness between people

#7 Games

When a gentleman is winning a game, they never flaunt their victory and when they are losing they don’t throw complain. Either way the game goes a gentleman always thinks the opposing side at the end of the game. Another thing I could relate to in this book is that a gentleman doesn’t give up halfway through a game even when it is completely obvious who the winner is. Always give a 100% as a gentleman.

#8 Appearance

One thing that all great gentleman known is keep up their appearance. Always keep your nails trimmed , your hair cut fashionably. Learn how to iron dress clothes if you don’t already know and learn a couple different ways to tie a tie. Also the book says not to feel ashamed if you aren’t good at matching clothes simply ask someone else for their opinion.

#9 Compliment

A gentleman knew it is okay to compliment the other gender even if they are in a relationship, especially if the person complimenting, is doing a great job at something.  A gentleman will jump to hold the door open for anyone especially if it’s a car door and a lady is writing and a gentleman always puts the seat down.
Lastly I would like to talk about movie theater etiquette. The goal of a movie theater is to enjoy the movie. A gentleman is always thinking of others and must think ahead when they are watching a movie. Make sure to avoid drinking lots of liquids or spicy food before a movie to avoid constant bathroom breaks. If you’re sick and have a terrible cough consider postponing the movie or sit by the door to leave quicker and also a gentleman make sure to arrive early and turn off their phone.

Now I would like to say that I hardly covered 25 of the 50 tips in the book '50 Things Every Young Gentleman Should Know’ but I believe anyone who take this steps for on the right path to becoming a great gentleman.  If you enjoyed this blog click the subscribe button so that you don’t miss any of our updates.
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